Holidays Bring Family Problems

Every year, at this time, we begin trying to figure out the logistics of getting everyone together for Christmas. Now with our kids married, new in-laws and more family members than ever, it is becoming increasingly more difficult. Not to mention the stress.

I only have a brother with his wife and family, but my husband’s family has now grown to a whopping 22 and that does not include us. If we were included it would be 29. Location, day, and time are pretty hard to resolve because we don’t all live in the same area. Some are three hours away, and some two. Not to mention the cost involved with transportation, food, and presents.

My brother and I have agreed that we will try to get together during the year instead of at Christmas. He wants to be with his grandkids and I want to be with mine. We understand the fact, with his son in law enforcement and our son-in-law in fire, scheduling can be difficult. Also we want our children to spend the Christmas season at home with their children. And years ago, we decided to only buy for the kids.

Now one year, I suggested, we take the money, which we would spend on these gatherings, and give or spend it on people who are in great need. I brought up the point that we are all so blessed to have homes, food, and much more than the basic necessities of life. And I personally feel that at Christmas and as Christians, this seems more appropriate than adding to our own loot and fat bellies. Later on, we can pick a time during the year to visit with one another. What do you think?  Would your family do something like this at Christmas?  Maybe they already do.  Share, please.

Also, I don’t know if you know, but Christmas is not Jesus’ birthday. He was born either in April or June, and it is a well known fact among scholars. We celebrate Christmas in December because of the Catholic church. You see, it was during a time in history,  when the pagans had what was called Winter Solstice with the gifts, trees, and celebrations. The Catholic church wanted to convert them over to Catholicism, so they compromised.  The Catholic church’s big holiday would be celebrated during the pagan’s winter solstice.  Thus the Christmas holiday was established for all Christians by the Catholic church.

Isn’t it funny because of our human nature to control, we even gave Jesus a birth date that was convenient to our scheduling and motives?  Not really.  With all of the marketing, merchandising, and the going broke in December so we can owe, owe, owe in January; would it not be better for every one to take a step back.  To put into perspective the real reason for Christmas, which is that God kept His promise.  He created a royal blood line for Jesus to be born from, with the purpose of saving our sorry necks.  To make us royal subjects, with an inheritance of eternal life!

So this Christmas season try something new for a change. If you have anger in your heart, either toward others, yourself, or family members, this is the time to follow Jesus’ example.  Let it all go, forgive, and move on to a blessed, productive life.  Instead of one more expensive gift, buy someone lunch, dinner, or pay their electric bill.  Spend some quiet time in meditation with God.  The stress will flow away and His Holy peace will enter your soul.  Christmas could be your re-birth!

I would like to share with you a bible verse, which has taught me so much this year. From the bible, The Message/Remix,  Matthew 5:48, “In a word, what I’m saying is, Grow Up.  You’re kingdom subjects. Now live like it.  Live out your God-created identity.  Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you.”  From Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount.


Author: jonithetentmaker

Published author of the awesome Christian children's book, "The Tent Maker". The Tent Maker blog and The Tent website is free for kids. Stories, games, coloring pages, and contests. Fun and fellowship go hand in hand, especially if it is a child's hand! My other blog, Thru The Bifocals of my Life, is my adult blog about how I see life through the bifocals that I must now wear and a little hindsight 20/20! Like everyone, I am very much human, flaws and all.

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