Forgiving a Murderer

The events of this past weekend, June 11 &12, have left a lot of us grieving and asking why. Death of a friend or family member is hard under normal circumstances, but when they are murdered…well. It takes on a totally different dimension.

You see, I too, had a friend who was murdered and processing this reality can be overwhelmingly difficult.

Your heart is shattered into a million pieces. There is a crushing sense of helplessness that takes over your days and nights. You are now living in an endless nightmare. Or so it seems.

And then there is the questioning yourself constantly, “What could I have done differently to prevent her/his death?”

Soon grief turns into a burning fire of revenge. You have all of this pent-up anger and the only place to direct it, is at the murderer and his accomplices (if any). Your mind begins to plot your plan of revenge.  Whether they are alive or not. You want them to feel your pain! Someone needs to feel your pain!

Unless you are a Christian.

We are told we must forgive, forgive, forgive.

To drive His point home, God tells us in Matthew 6:15,“But if you do not forgive their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

So, now you begin a conversation with yourself.

“Ok, I want to be forgiven, because I do sin.”

“Never committed murder though.”

“Yes, I definitely want to be forgiven.”

“But I also want revenge! How can I have both?”

You can’t! Instead you now have to pursue the path of forgiveness.

The next question is how do you find forgiveness for a murderer and his partners in crime?

My friend, it is a journey.

I would like to share with you a quote from Max Lucado’s book Yancy.

“In the final analysis, forgiveness is an act of faith. By forgiving another, I am trusting that God is a better justice-maker than I am. By forgiving, I release my own right to get even and leave all issues of fairness for God to work out. I leave in God’s hands the scales that must balance justice and mercy.” (Yancy, pg 83)

I agree that God is the better justice-maker. For by leaving it to God, He will take care of everyone; the victims, the ones left behind, and the murderer.

For now your journey to forgiveness will be like climbing a very tall mountain.

Foot on one rock, now foot on another rock, and then you hoist your body up to another sections of rocks. There are times you slide down, and there are times you just can’t pull yourself up anymore.  Sometimes it takes weeks, months, even years.

Just trust in God that He will see you through it. During these times, we must pull from God’s strength and love.  He does love you!

So, this is my prayer for you…

Heavenly Father: So many people are hurting right now, not understanding the evil of this world and why their love ones had to die. Give them peace Father, knowing you have their love one, and one day they will be reunited in eternity. Give them understanding that You are the justice-maker. Bring healing and restoration to their lives and their hearts.            In Jesus Name. Amen.

God Bless You! God Bless Orlando!

And God Bless America!


Author: jonithetentmaker

Published author of the awesome Christian children's book, "The Tent Maker". The Tent Maker blog and The Tent website is free for kids. Stories, games, coloring pages, and contests. Fun and fellowship go hand in hand, especially if it is a child's hand! My other blog, Thru The Bifocals of my Life, is my adult blog about how I see life through the bifocals that I must now wear and a little hindsight 20/20! Like everyone, I am very much human, flaws and all.

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